It takes two to tango

Monogamy – the practice of having one relationship or marriage with one person at a time. For centuries men and women have been known to stray from these type of relationships, and cheat on their partners. For whatever reason, I seem to be reading articles or seeing posts about women exacting revenge and blaming the other woman for their husband/boyfriends indiscretions.

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I cannot seem to get my head around this train of thought. Your boyfriend/husband cheats and one makes it their mission to seek out the other woman to confront them and tell them to stay away from their man. Why are you not holding your husband/boyfriend accountable for their actions. It takes two to tango.

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An article on the MailOniline app, reports about a woman in Vietnam who exacted revenge on husbands alleged mistress by covering her with fish sauce and chilli powder. I certainly hope that the husband got the same revenge too. Why let him get away scott free for his indiscretions? Tit for tat doesn’t work, embarrassing or harming the other woman does not stop him from cheating. Once the dust settles and what made him cheat was not resolved, you can bet he will almost certainly cheat again. Some men say they love the thrill of chasing a woman, some say it’s the thrill of the affair. I’ll leave it for the men to tell us more….

People need to take personal responsibility for their own actions. This man after committing to a monogamous relationship, has broken this promise. It is his fault, period. If you commit yourself to eating healthy but decide to indulge yourself with a burger and fries, are you going to go attack the chef who made the meal????? You made the conscious and informed decision to leave your home, pay for this meal knowing the consequences.

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Similarly, your husband/boyfriend made a conscious and informed decision to meet up with this other woman and had a relationship of a sexual/emotional nature. Men are not children, they are able to differentiate between right and wrong. He knew what he was doing was wrong that is why he went to great lengths to hide this affair from you. He is responsible for his actions. Confronting the other woman is a futile process. It’s like trying to reign in a wild horse long after it’s left the stables.

In my opinion, there is no need to confront the other woman. Try to get closure or understanding by talking to your partner. He has all the answers as to why he was unfaithful, not her.